Saturday, January 31, 2009

#23- Am I a good negotiator?!

Have you seen 20/20 (ABC TV) on the 30th ('Unsaid Chemistry': Science of Seduction Four Couples, Biological Anthropologist Explore the Changing Rules of Attraction)?

I recorded it and I saw it this afternoon and I took a test of biological personality types by biological anthropologist Helen Fisher. My result/my primary personality type is a “explore” (my secondary personality type is a “negotiator”.)

Ms.Fisher suspects we are all some combination of these four types, which she has named the explorer (risk-taking, associated with dopamine), the builder (calm, traditional, associated with serotonin), the director (analytical, tough-minded and decisive, associated with testosterone) and the negotiator (emotionally expressive and empathetic, associated with estrogen).
* This info is from ABC TV website http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Story?id=6761212&page=1

I think everybody is different, so we can’t simply devise four types of personalities, but it was fun to take a test like this.

And I think I am a good negotiator! I did negotiate my apartment rent the other day and it went well again. At this economic downtime…my apartment company was planning to raise my rent for 6% (increase $77), but I negotiated my rent with a manager and the rent will increase 4.5% (increase $57) from March. The manager gave me 1.5%($20) discount.

At first year was 11% increased (I nagotiated! instead of 17%,$205 increase) and second year was 3% increased (I nagotiated! instead of 7.5%,$100 increase)…and this year…my rent will $57 go up. I researched rent of my neighbors/friends, the other apartment reviews and I am happy about my result.

I have a nice pool view, big nice tree, palm trees, flowers and hill side view… I guess this rent is fare to me for now…

By the way, the last message of 20/20 (ABC TV) was "If everybody could match people easily, we wouldn't have been talking about romantic love for the last 4 million years”…but…I think that easy to match people and match with happiness life…just feel happy by our self…and then we can feel happy with everybody right?!

I had great time with Keasha, Suzie and Junko this month. I am happy that I did celebrate their birthdays this month and it was a precious moment in my life. I have a nice place to live and have a nice family and…have nice friends!

It was a nice first month of this year. I hope you had a great month too!

By Yoko Fujimoto
Los Angeles
Jan 31, 2009

Sunday, January 25, 2009

#22- My friend’s inauguration trip was…

Keasha is an African American who is from Los Angeles and she is one of my best friends who I met at Entrepreneur Magazine where we used to work together.

She and her husband(J***) & son (J********/ 3 and half year old) went to Washington DC last week for the inauguration, so I sent an email to her “How was the trip?”…and she wrote me back a wonderful and fun email today.

I would like to share it with you who read my blog…because we can feel the real inauguration day and African American’s real feeling on that day and today.

I really glad that Keasha is my special friend, because I always learn many beautiful things from her.


******* Here is Keasha’s email on today*******(I got a permission from Keasha to share her email with you all.)


Hi Family,

C****, L**** & Yoko -- thanks for asking about the inauguration trip. Being in DC for the inauguration was great, although we were thrown off by an unexpected overnight layover in NY and basically lost a day. We spent most of Monday morning recovering (and we had to go back to the airport that afternoon to get our bags). Monday night, we attended an inaugural reception at the Smithsonian Museum of African Art, where J***'s cousin D****** and her African dance group performed.

It was too cold for us to take J******** out on the National Mall in the early morning on Inauguration Day, but we got out there later and saw the parade. Even in the short time we were out there, J********'s hands got very cold and started hurting, and I had to take off his gloves and put his hands in my mouth to warm them up quickly so he wouldn't get frostbite. (We later learned that some people we know did get frostbite from standing out there so long.)

On Wednesday, we took J******** to see the White House. There were lots of people out there taking pictures. One native Washingtonian stopped us and said he had never seen so many black people visiting the White House. That makes sense, since we've never had this kind of investment in a president. It's a big deal to be represented at the highest level after so long, and people recognize that.

On the subway Wednesday evening on our way to visit D******'s African dance class, J******** was on J***'s lap, and they were sitting next to a woman who was reading the newspaper, which of course had photos of the new president. J******** turned to me and said: "Mommy, I want to be Barack Obama." So that was really a moment for us and everyone nearby who heard him say it. Our children will have an entirely different perception of what is possible...

When we got to the dance class, the drummers invited J******** to join in -- and he did! And he was good at it! We were amazed at how long he stayed with the drumming, and he was right on beat, too. He even came over to me at one point and asked me to roll up his sleeves. He had his own drum, and he was really into it! We got some good video of him. At the end of the class, the lead drummer gave J******** $1 for his work, so Grandpa E**** will be pleased to know that J******** had his first paid musical gig!

That night, we had a cozy family dinner at J***'s Auntie J*'s house with cousins D****** and M*****, and J***'s mom. We had a good time...

Talk to you soon,
Keasha

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Her son J********…he is only 3.5 years old and he said that ” Mommy, I want to be Barack Obama.” Wow, Obama gives us so many hopes and power of happiness.

I am glad that I am in U.S.A. at this moment.

By Yoko Fujimoto
Los Angeles
Jan 25, 2009

Friday, January 23, 2009

#21- Perfect day!

Suzie visited me, had a tea time at my place and we went out for lunch in Glendale and dinner in Silver Lake today.

Since our reunion after 8 years apart…I visited her house last month and she visited my apartment today.

We celebrated her early birthday (her birthday is on this Sunday!) and celebrated our friendship for 23 years.

It was a perfect day with perfect friend.

Life is beautiful!!!

By Yoko Fujimoto
Los Angeles
Jan 23, 2009

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

#20- Congrats U.S.A.!!!

I was up since 6:00am and until now…I am watching TV(at the same time,I was working!)

Of course I wanted to see the beautiful historical moment in the states.

Obama’s inaugural speech was kind of ordinary/plain to me…I wish I could hear more his own words and passion…

My favorite part of his speech was…”This is the meaning of our liberty and our creed - why men and women and children of every race and every faith can join in celebration across this magnificent mall, and why a man whose father less than sixty years ago might not have been served at a local restaurant can now stand before you to take a most sacred oath.”

Now, white, black, brown, yellow…will be equal…so…I hope men and women will be equal too. Especially… in Japan…!

Go Mr.Obama and Ms.Clinton!

I am soooooooo happy for U.S.A.

By Yoko Fujimoto
Los Angeles
Jan 20, 2009

Sunday, January 11, 2009

#19- Jet lag in L.A….

It is 5 o’clock in the morning…yes…I am in jet lag…!

Soooooooo nice to come back to L.A.

Suzie e-mailed me and called me.We talked for two hours and half. So nice to hear the word…“Welcome home”. Yes I am back!!! L.A. is my town for sure!!!


My vacation (one month) in Japan was very very nice!!!

I stayed at my mother and brother’s house in Tokyo, Japan. Saw 6 movies and read 12 books…three times trips with my family (with my mother and my younger brother) and ate so much food for a month. It was a perfect vacation!

Trip to Utsunomiya in Tochigi was nice. We had a great time with my uncles, aunts and cousin. One of my uncles has a cancer and he is dying…but…I believe miracle, so my uncle is not going to die soon…I was so happy to see him at this time. I told him that “You are going to live long for sure”. I really think so.

At the Christmas time, we spent time in Shinjuku, Tokyo and Shimoda, Izu in Shizuoka. We (with my mother and my brother) had a dinner on Christmas Eve at the Shinjuku Prince Hotel in Shinjuku, Tokyo and spent the night at this hotel. It was very warm warm Christmas Eve. My mother and my brother gave me so many presents! One of my best one was…watch with solar cell by Citizen. New eco-drive watch!!! It is a pink gold watch! My brother gave this watch to me and to my mother. He gave me more…cash and other gifts…my younger brother is like my late father…ha ha ha! The gifts from my mother were wonderful too. Many clothes and cash.

Christmas day and next day, we went to Shimoda, Izu in Shizuoka. We saw beautiful Fuji Mountain. So white(snow) on the top and sky was blue…wow, this is so Japan! Shimoda is a pleasant city in Izu. It has historical importance as the landing place of several of Commodore Perry's "black ships" in 1854, an event which marked the end of Japan's era of isolation and the start of diplomatic relations between the U.S.A. and Japan. We visited Shimoda Park and I felt really glad that I saw the monument of friendship between Japan and U.S.A.!

Shimoda has a nice hot spring (Onsen /in Japanese.) We stayed at Shimoda Tokyu Hotel for two days. The hotel was in front of beautiful ocean and there were palm trees and Pine trees…I really felt that Shimoda view has American + Japanese energy. It was a perfect place to spend time at the Christmas time. Onsen (hot spring in Japanese) was great! It was nice to take a bath with my mother.

At the New year’s week, we spent time in Shinjuku,Tokyo, Owari Onsen in Aichi, Toba Onsen in Mie and Ise in Mie. In Tokyo, we stayed at the Shinjuku Keio Plaza Hotel. And we went to trip to Owari Onsen, Toba Onsen, Toyokawa Inari, Atsuta Jingu, Ise Jingu, Futamigaura/Meoto Iwa, Asamayama Kongoshoji, Asamayama Observatory and Ise Jingu (Naiku/Geku)... We went to Kyoto and Ise Jingu last year…and I loved Ise Jingu…because…it was a best place to make a wish…! I had a great year=last year…so I wanted to go back there and made a wish at the Ise Jingu again!!!

My mother cooked for me and my brother (younger!) paid everythings for me(included twice trips)…I have a very nice family…

So…at this vacation, I wanted spend time with my family as much as I can.

I hope everyone had great holidays. Have a wonderful 2009!!!

P.S. To my Japanese friends in Japan…I am so sorry that I didn’t call you or see you…Happy 2009 again.

By Yoko Fujimoto
Los Angeles
Jan 11, 2009